3 flawless steps to seducing that MILF you have your eye on

Can’t keep your mind off that one MILF from the gym? Obsessed with the sophisticated older regulars at your favorite bar? Need to get that sexy older woman’s number you always see at the market? Well, you’re going to have to put your cougar hunting skills to work.
Seducing older women isn’t as easy as messaging your twenty-something Tinder matches if they’re “down to have some fun”. You’re going to actually have to flirt to get with older women, and you’re going to have to flirt well.
Getting with MILFS isn’t hard if you know the right things to say and do and which apps to use.  I personally met my MILF at Cougar Dating Hookup .com It all comes down to balancing your youthful playful side and your more sophisticated tendencies. Here are a few fool-proof steps to seducing that MILF you can’t stop thinking about.
1. Sincerely flatter her
Bad canned pick-up lines aren’t going to work with women of a certain age. You’re going to actually have to be observant and deliver compliments that warrant flushed cheeks – not eye rolls.
Cheesy can be a total winner if done well, but make sure that if you’re going to go the pun-y route that you make sure your brand of cheese is gourmet and not the kind that spurts out of a can.
Cougars like younger men, not little boys. So, make sure that your brand of flirting is somewhat sophisticated. That being said, don’t be too serious. Too serious is just as off putting as too goofy, so find that sweet spot. If you’re unsure of where your compliments fall on a scale of cringe-worthy to swoon-inducing, enlist the help of a buddy or a female friend.
2. Keep age out of the conversation
I feel like this is obvious, but no woman of a certain age wants to be reminded that she is indeed of a certain age. Don’t remind her that she’s middle-aged. That won’t bode well for you. Not only will you not get laid, you’re likely to get chewed out. Older women are certainly not afraid of putting you in your place.
Let her bring up topics surrounding age like kids, college experiences, and past marriages. If she wants to talk about these topics which will certainly be telling of her age, then that’s okay. Just don’t bring these up yourself.
Some women won’t care about the age difference (which might be signaled by her bringing these topics up), but some may feel uncomfortable if her age gets highlighted in conversation.
3. Be a gentleman
Yes, you’re young and fun which is what is probably one of the things older women will find endearing about you. But that doesn’t mean that you should act like a toddler.
You need to walk that line between mature and youthful, which includes being a gentleman. Yes, you should refrain from being stiff but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand when she enters a room or pull out her chair for her.
These things indicate that you were raised right and have respect for women, which older women demand. You won’t be able to walk all over a MILF even if you wanted to, so don’t let chivalry die for your generation with you.

A complete guide to Fetlife (9 dos and don’ts)

Dating and hooking up is difficult enough without the added factor of looking for someone with kinks that match yours. Thankfully you don’t have to go to a fetish club or a play party to find like-minded people! If you don’t know about Fetlife, you need to join asap.
Fetlife is essentially Facebook for kinky people! It’s free to use but you can choose to pay $30 for six months to scroll further down your timeline, scroll further down the Kinky & Popular page, and watch videos! However, you totally don’t need to throw money at the site to use it effectively (though the videos people post are sometimes better than professional porn, sooo drool worthy).
Here are a few things you need to know if you’re new to the site!
Do: “Love” people’s pictures
One of the main functions of the site is for kinky people to share what they do in their personal lives! You shouldn’t feel like a creep for “loving” people’s pictures! Even if they’re nudes. Don’t feel uncomfortable, they’re sharing it because they want people to look at it.
If you want, leave a comment! I’m sure the poster will appreciate the attention, for a lot of the, it’s probably their kink!
Don’t: Add people randomly
One thing that is a huge problem on the site is that people love to go around on the site and add random people. Friend collecting is not only annoying but it feels ingenuine. Instead of adding someone as a friend, follow them instead. People are unlikely to add you as a lot of photos and videos people post can be limited to “friends only”.
If you like someone’s posts but haven’t talked to them, see if they allow the follow feature!
Do: Read people’s bio’s
Before you go sending someone a message or making a comment, read their profile! You should definitely try to get an idea of what a person is about before interacting with them! Just because someone is attractive doesn’t mean they’re your type or that they want to talk to you.
People are into some weird stuff! The last thing you want to do is message someone only to find out that they’re into something that totally turns you off. What a waste of time!
Don’t: Be too forward
Yes, the site is centered around sex. Yes, people post a lot of nudity. Yes, some people are looking to fuck immediately. However, not everyone is.
You need to approach people with the same amount of respect and caution as you would in a vanilla dating scenario. Just because someone posts nudes, doesn’t mean they want to have sex with everyone.
There is nothing worse than an empty profile! So, post! Make a bio, post a photo (even if you leave your face out), participate in the community!
Take quizzes and post your results or make one of these maps of your sexuality! This will give profile-viewers a great idea of what you’re about!
Don’t: Be a dick
This should go without saying: but be nice (unless someone asks you to be mean, wink wink). If you’re nice people will be nice in return and you might even get laid!
Do: Join groups and have fun!
The kink sex community is strong, so why not join it. There are groups on the site for everything from sex to books! So join some groups and make some friends!

How to survive hook-up culture

It seems that in these days dating barely exists. Everyone wants all the sex, a little bit of the emotional support, but none of the commitment. Our culture is very much a hook up culture, which can get a little confusing if you’re trying to land yourself a solid bae.

You might find yourself diving into some sort of an arrangement with the expectation of something a little more, or the expectation of something entirely sexual, only to find out that your partner is on an entirely different page and want’s something completely different out of the relationship.

In this time where we’re more connected than ever, we somehow manage to be more disconnected from one another. It’s more and more difficult to figure out one another’s intentions and desires, which is crucial for successful dating.

Here are a couple tips for surviving hook-up culture

1. Be honest with what you want

Whether if you are more of a hook-up artist or the hopeless romantic, it’s important to be honest about what you’re looking for in a relationship. Once a relationship feels like it’s blurring the lines between friends with benefits and romance you need to sit down and set some boundaries.

Often people are more interested in one night stands than they are friends with benefits, it’s equally as important to set boundaries in these kinds of relationships as well. They are especially important for your sexual health. If you don’t know who else your FWB is sleeping with, if anyone at all, you could be at risk for an STI.

I have found that it’s harder for people who have caught feelings to be honest with their friend with benefits. It’s more important for you to be honest about your feelings – or at least break it off for “personal reasons” if you don’t want to tell them – so that you don’t end up getting hurt in the end. Be good to yourself and do what’s good for you even if that means breaking things off or losing a friendship.

2. Communicate

If there is one thing you take away from this article, it’s that you need to communicate. You have got to be honest with the person – or people – you’re sleeping with, which means omitting the truth is not an option.

This is where people get hurt – lack of communication. If you don’t know how to relay your feelings and desires you’re going to get hurt in the long run. If you can ask what you want in bed, you can certainly effectively communicate what you want from a relationship.

Don’t just rely on social media for communication. Talk face to face.

3. Understand that not everyone wants what you want

You might be looking for something completely different than the person you’re ìseeingî, or ìtalking toî, or whatever else you want to call that limbo. Which might mean that things aren’t going to work out the way you want them to. The person you’re fucking on the regular, might really want a serious relationship. The person you’re hanging out with and banging, might be completely satisfied with that sort of arrangement even though you caught feelings weeks ago.

Understand that you might want different things. Communicating and being honest will allow you to find someone who wants what you want and minimize hurt feelings if things don’t work out. But if things don’t work out you can’t get angry. It’s not your fault. It’s not their fault. People are in different places in their lives and need or want different things. Understand this and try not to get angry if things fall apart.

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